The Reason Many Marriages Are Breaking Up

Lack of trust and love is the major culprit. If couples don’t trust themselves, their marriage won’t last. For a marriage to succeed there should be understanding between couples. Although as an African woman, I have come to believe that all African men are polygamous in nature. There is no doubt about that. I have been married for over 30 years; I have seen marriages collapse as a result of lack of trust and love. Marriage is all about endurance. One should not be too suspicious of one’s partner. 

Signs that he’s cheating on you: As I said earlier, a man who respects his wife would not show it in his attitude so that he does not hurt her. You don’t have to pry but a woman who is very sensitive would know that something is wrong with his man. Moreover, the woman may get to know from the rumour mill. 

The bad effects of rumour on a marriage: I won't say that a woman should rely on rumours but... 

every rumour has an element of truth. Once you hear rumour, take time and let him know that you are aware of his atrocities. If he loves you he will definitely deny it and pet you not to believe in the rumour that could break the home. If a woman has more than two kids there is nowhere for her to go and that is why I advise women not to have too many kids they wouldn’t be able to take care of in case of any break up. 

Every woman should be the pillar of her home. She should endeavour to train her kids in the way of the Lord. Don’t let rumours about your husband’s escapades bother you. Some African men think another woman would bear them children especially if the legal wife has only female children or no child at all. Women should be wise so that things do not end badly for them. 

Men see women as slaves and that is why they treat their wives anyhow. That is why mothers should strive hard to give their kids quality education so that her effort will not be in vain. Education is light, if a woman has education before she marries her husband will respect her, knowing that she would not be a liability to him. Although the truth still remains that men are selfish by nature. Hardly would you see a man that wants his wife to be more successful than him. That is why I don’t also encourage couples to have a joint account and bussiness. 

Another sign is when your husband starts complaining about you, check it out, he could be seeing another woman whom he feels is better than you. women should try and keep somethings secret because no man is ready to reveal the truth about his bank account to his wife. If a man tells his wife everything about him, there could be something he is getting for his personal benefit. Moreover, you can only know a man’s true charater when he his rich, if he is an average person you won’t realy tell what he can do. 

Dangers of checking your husband’s phone calls: I don’t see any crime in checking your man’s phone but if he does not want it, then there is no need for curiosity. If the man wants to go to hell let him go but just give yourself peace. 

Advice for women who suspect their husbands of being unfaithful: Let them find a source of income (and keep themselves busy). A woman should not be a liability to her husband.
*The end.*

This piece is the concluding part of Mrs. Abosede Tijani’s guide on Marriage and Relationship... Take a lesson or two from this message; they would go a long way in helping you maintain and sustain your relationship/marriage. Good luck!